How to Lower Your Toxic Load

Published by Darby

July 14, 2026
A person peers out of a green-shuttered window, while white laundry hangs on a clothesline against a vibrant yellow wall, showcasing local life.

One Load at a time… Keep your laundry clean with this easy fix. 

As a mama of a newborn, I have chosen cloth diapering. My husband and I do a lot of laundry! Between spit-up, leaks, and the diapers themselves, we go through detergent like crazy. This is an area of our lives that really makes an impact, as everything that touches our little one’s sensitive skin can absorb and affect his development for life. 

There are so many brands of laundry products out there. Most claim to leave your clothes smelling summer-breeze fresh. The truth is, many of these brands have harmful chemicals that linger in your clothing, giving the essence of a fresh smell that lasts for days, thanks to the phthalates and other toxic ingredients lurking within. 

My husband and I took a trip to Costco yesterday. In someone’s cart, I saw the largest bottle of fabric softener I had ever seen. Fabric softeners work by utilizing surfactants. “The primary type of surfactant used is cationic surfactants, which have a positively charged head, specifically quaternary ammonium compounds like distearyldimethylammonium chloride (DSDMAC) and diethyl ester dimethyl ammonium chloride (DEEDMAC).” 

The most comprehensive data we have is from the Environmental Working Group website. Their site rates toxicity from “Verified” being the best to an “F” rating being the worst, attributing to breathing hazards, cancer, reproductive harm, and more! 

Beware of Fragrance

Most scented products in the stores contain phthalates, which we know to have a host of cancer-causing, hormone-disrupting, obesity inducing effects. No one wants to expose themselves or their children to these health issues, but how are we supposed to know where to start? 

Let’s take a look at how you can use the brands you love better by comparing ingredients based on their EWG rating: 

Downy Wrinkleguard Liquid Fabric Softener and Conditioner, Fresh
  • Ingredients 
    • Moderate 
    • Asthma/Respiratory 
    • Some 
    • Skin Allergies and Irritation 
    • Moderate 
    • Developmental and Reproductive Toxicity 
    • Moderate 
    • Cancer 
    • Moderate 
    • Environment
EWG Rated F

Polymers, Fragrance, Dimethicone, Amodimethicone, Diethyl Ester Dimethyl Ammonium Chloride, Anisaldehyde, Hexyl Cinnamal, Methoxypolyoxyethylene Melamine, Terpineol, Dialkyl Dimethyl Ammonium Chlorides (DDAC), Pentasodium DTPA, Formic Acid, Polyquaternium-33, Citronellyl Nitrile, Benzyl Acetate, Benzyl Salicylate, Citronellol, Ethyl 2-Methylbutyrate, Allyl Cyclohexylpropionate, Cis-2-Tert-Butylcyclohexyl Acetate, Gamma-Undecalactone, Hexyl Acetate, Ethyl Acetoacetate Ethylene Glycol Ketal, 2,4-Dimethyl-3-Cyclohexene Carboxaldehyde, 2,6-Dimethyl-7-Octen-2-ol, Acetoxydihydrodicyclopentadiene (Mixture of Isomers), Hexyl Salicylate, Isobutyl Methyl Tetrahydropyranol, D-Limonene, Methyl Dihydrojasmonate, Methyl Beta-Naphthyl Ether, Citrus Species Leaf Oil Terpenes and Terpenoids, Mixed Sour and Sweet Orange Oil Terpenes and Terpenoids, Sweet Orange Oil, Polyquaternium-37, Tetramethyl Acetyloctahydronaphthalenes, Tricyclodecenyl Propionate, Hexylene Glycol, Water, Calcium Chloride, and Ethanol. 

So, do you need fabric softener? Not really, but if you do like it, here are some natural alternatives and even some versions of the same brand that score worse on the EWG. You don’t have to make huge changes; just reaching for the less toxic version of a product can drastically reduce your chemical exposure, and you can feel good about making changes without giving up your routine. 

Here’s the same brand, same basic concept of fabric softening that works in the same way, but with far fewer ingredients

Citrus Species Leaf Oil Terpenes and Terpenoids, Mixed Sour and Sweet Orange Oil Terpenes and Terpenoids, Sweet Orange Oil, Alpha-Terpineol, Citronellyl Nitrile, Tricyclodecenyl Propionate (Hexahydro-Methanoindenyl Propionate), Ethyl Acetoacetate Ethylene Glycol Ketal, 2,4-Dimethyl-3-Cyclohexene Carboxaldehyde, 2,6-Dimethyl-7-Octen-2-ol, Verdyl Acetate (4,7-Methano-1H-inden-6-ol, 3a,4,5,6,7,7a-hexahydro-, acetate), Acetoxydihydrodicyclopentadiene (Mixture of Isomers), Anisaldehyde, Benzyl Acetate, Benzyl Salicylate, Ethyl 2-Methylbutyrate, and Water. 

Now, if you’re already a plastic minimalist, or you want to go 0-100, here are some alternatives we know you will love. 

Plain white vinegar is such a helpful tool for stains and brightening. 

Castile soap is a good emulsifier to get those suds going. 

Essential oils, if you like scented laundry, mix a few drops into your soap. 

Homemade detergent, natural cleaning blogs like Lemons Lavender & Laundry are great resources for recipes. I love Hopewell Heights on YouTube for all things cloth diapering, laundry, and motherhood. 

Our Top Picks!

These products bear the EWG Verified® mark, meaning that “the product meets EWG’s strictest standards for health and safety. It avoids any of the ingredients on EWG’s “Unacceptable List” and provides full transparency of ingredients, including fragrance.” 
– EWG

  • AspenClean offers multiple scents for both liquid and powdered detergents! 

Attitude Baby Home Essentials Laundry Detergent, Unscented 

Laundry Sodas 

Whether you’re new to the edit or a seasoned chemical warrior. These little fixes are great for the whole family. 

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Hello,

I’m Darby

Homesteading wife, mama, Doula, and avid protector of my family.

That’s why I created this blog: to help you minimize your family’s exposure to toxic chemicals lurking in plastics. You may have seen my husband and me on Netflix in The Plastic Detox, so you know I use research-based evidence to support my battle cry for natural alternatives, as well as my mama heart, to decide what is right for us.

Take a look around and see what swaps you could make in your life to balance your hormones, increase your fertility, reduce risks for cancer, and a host of other health issues lurking in BPA, PFAS, and phthalates.

To see a little insight into our faith and fertility journey, follow me on Substack!

Little Fixes add up!

Pax,

Darby

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